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You may be single by choice or circumstance. You may plan to marry and have a family, or you may sense a call to lifelong singleness. Even so, your situation is God’s will for you now. What will you do with it? What will you learn from it? And how will you survive the temptations confronting singles in this world?

You know firsthand that single men face unique spiritual and moral struggles. Character is the cornerstone of being God’s man as a single in today’s culture. To live successfully out of a commitment to Christ, you as a single man must master the issues of sexual integrity, isolation, contentment, spiritual battle, and identity in Christ. Being God’s Man…as a Satisfied Single is designed to help you do just that. ... Read more

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A personal spin on life's challenges
David Moore's tongue-in-cheek title is the perfect approach to sharing personal stories and insights to common challenges in life.In fact, the application of personal stories and insights is the key to any book like this (popular, as apposed to academic), that tackles deeper understanding of Biblical teachings.David does this in an entertaining and succinct manner that is easy and quick to read.I definitely recommend this book to young or old, men or women, who thirst for more stories and insights about how to live their lives more Godly.

The last book to read....
I was thoroughly disappointed with this book.

I knew I wasted my money from the first page:"Women should feel free to read it. In fact, most of this book easily applies to either sex...at the very least, women ought to read this book to have more awareness of the sorry excuses we men sometimes give." -First page, first chapter.

As a man, I was disappointed and offended by these statements. First of all I bought a book (with hard earned cash!) that calls itself a "Men's Book"...but right off the starting block, the author lets you know it's just going to be basic Christian life stuff...material covered in countless other books already. Basically nothing new here.

But the second statement ticked me off. This kind of male bashing is at the root of most of my frustration with Christian writers and speakers on male issues within the church. There is this thin or not so thin veneer of condescending judgement that often denigrates, belittles and disempowers men. It's like Christian communicators love the "rubber glove" treatment...they purposefully are always looking to expose weakness, sin, the underdeveloped side, the cancer, the inadequacies, the frailties and dichotomies of men.

They undermine the key issue the Scripture says men long for...RESPECT.

Training involves engaging the subjects that men struggle and fail with but the manner in which those subjects are dealt with here...leave men turned off and feeling like another Homer Simpson. It's typical, uninteresting, tired material...reminiscent of the proverbial dripping faucet. This style of writing is more similar to a nagging wife than a partner or helpmate that understands the power of praise and encouragement.

I was hoping the references to historical, solid theological roots would of inspired a fresh book that is biblically sound and culturally spry...but instead it felt like room temperature church coffee served in a styrofoam cup at the local Presbyterian church Grandma used to go to.

I'm sorry if this review is hyper critical, but I was really disappointed with the book and hope to see these kinds of books disappear and am praying for more creative, engaging, biblical authors to emerge in this genre. I respect the author's intent but feel he fell way short of actually living up to the idea behind the title.

It was a good idea.
This book is well written but isn't the book that will bring the men out of the woodwork. I was worried it would be too deep, but instead it lacks any depth and never really speaks to the everyday male in my congregation. It is also on the conservative side of theology and consistently refers to God as he instead of as God. I didn't hate it, nor did I love it.

Worth the read for women as well as men
This is a "get to the point" book.Actually, it is not SO manly that a woman wouldn't benefit from reading it.I (being a woman)actually didn't skip any chapter (or page, for that matter).The book was worth my time; I looked forward to each chapter. In addition, I look forward to reading many of the titles mentioned in the notes at the end of each chapter.This book could actually serve as a resource for delving into other books (current and classics).For that reason, the book appeals to the casual reader as well as readers who desire a deeper look.

Trust me, it won't be the LAST book...it'll be the FIRST of many!
A great little book of wisdom, Moore has written something that men might actually read.It is short, engaging, interesting and useful.The title is misleading, however, this book should be the first book, not the last, that a Christian man reads - it is filled with wonderful suggestions for further study - from references to Jeremiah Burrough's A Rare Jewel of Christian Contentment to William Law's classic A Serious Call to a Devout and Holy Life, Moore shares his depth of insight and wisdom as a husband, father and godly man with others in this easy-to-read book.The book is intended to be used by men's groups; there are excellent discussion questions at the end of each chapter and since the chapters are short, the discussion with other men will be an important element of the effectiveness of this book.This book would be a great starting place for a young Christian or an excellent reminder for a more mature believer - a book that gets you to examine your priorities and your pursuits.Moore may interject humor at all the right places, but the book is a pretty serious read and hopefully more men will pick it up and realize that the Christian walk is a serious, and exciting, journey.The Last Men's Book You'll Ever Need will hopefully be one of many that Christian men read as this book ignites a passion within men to be the leaders of their families and our communities and not just their businesses. ... Read more

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Finally, a resource that guides you through the
toughest--and most important--conversations
you'll ever have with your son.

It’s never been easy for a father or mother to talk to a son about sex. For Christian parents, it’s always been a challenge to know exactly how to teach God’s standards of purity and integrity.

But today, the stakes are higher than they’ve ever been. So it’s vital that fathers and mothers prepare their sons to withstand the sexual onslaught of their culture through movies, television, music, and the Internet.

But what should you say? And how should you say it?

The authors behind the best-selling Every Man series have put together all the resources and guidance you need to experience frank, thorough, and natural conversations with your son about sexual integrity. They offer an effective new communication process that ensures a deep, abiding relationship as your son moves into his teen years and beyond.

Equip him with the biblical information and spiritual insights he needs to stand strong, overcome temptation, and experience the blessings of godly obedience…for the rest of his life.

Ideal for all parents of boys, including single moms. ... Read more

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A must-have for ALL parents of pre-teen sons
This book was beautifully written for a father (single mother)+son and is not just about sexual integrity but also building a stronger communication foundation with your child.I am married mother of 3 sons and purchased this book at the advisement of a pastor delivering a sermon about having "the Talk" with your children.I was BLOWN AWAY and can only say that I want my husband and I to have this kind of relationship with our boys so very much.I especially appreciated how the author made the distinction between "natural" and "common" teen/pre-teen behaviors - this is SO UNDER-DISCUSSED!Get this book and USE IT -- you won't be sorry and neither will your boy(s)!!

Great subject; bad execution.Expectations were too high.
My expectations were too high for this book.I have been disappointed for many reasons.

First, the good.This is a topic that fathers ABSOLUTELY need to cover with their sons.If they don't, someone will and this book provides some great ideas / thoughts on how to approach the subject.

My disappointment: 1) The topic order in the Dad / Son section is chaotic, swinging wildly from one topic to the next.For example, chapter 1 is about puberty, but then chapter 2 jumps straight into the mechanics of sex.There is a great gulf of information between these two topics that is left for other chapters that follow, if covered at all.It will require some serious planning to get the topics into an order that actually makes sense.2) In the section for 11-13 year olds, the author covers his high school experiences.For the 13-15 year olds, he covers his college experiences.In my opinion, the intended audience of these sections is too young for the stories he shares.3) There are topics that are completely absent but are extremely relevant today.Abuse, homosexuality, situational awareness, how to protect yourself (school, public, church), camera phones, sexting, and social networking are just a few of the missing topics.

Today's world is even more complex sexually than when we parents were kids.But this book is silent on many topics, reasons unknown.If you are going to do right by your sons in teaching them, you have got to cover all the topics they face in today's world, not just those we grew up with or those this author experienced.That means Dads (or Moms) are going to have to find other sources of information and uncover topics that may be uncomfortable but have to be explored and shared with our sons.

This book is one source of information on your journey.But, don't consider it the only source and certainly not the singular authority because it is quite lacking on several levels and topics in my opinion.

Great Book
In a world filled with so much sexual sin, this is a great book for helping your son avoid sexual sins. It has 2 sections, one for the parent and one for study to do together. I can't recommend this book enough!

Fair. Something to think about, Dads!
I read this book, seeing I have a younger teenage son. The first half of the book is good basic information for young minds to grasp. However, I will NOT be reading the second half with my son. Why? It's my feeling the authors are much too graphic with their whoremongering (Yes, that is it's true title. Yes, I know "mistakes" is more politically correct) when they were younger. Almost bragging/proud to tell about them?? I'm glad, after numerous sexual encounters with many women, he finally came to himself and decided to be "pure" until marriage, and do the "Lord's" work/write books, etc. Sorry, he lost the opportunity to carry that title (Pure)when he got "tired of being a virgin", and gave up his purity, which can never be gotten back, no matter how chaste he is after. (which was definitely NOT the case for this guy) So, the question for me as a Dad is: Do I want my son to think he can be just like the author, an abuser of women for his own selfish gratification, and come out "OK" on the other side? Writing books, etc? I have to say a resounding,No!

Understand your son
If you are a dad with a boy between 10 and 13,you need this book.Your relationship will never be the same and never be better!!! ... Read more

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Bestselling author Bob Barnes provides a gathering of brief, powerful meditations, packed with encouragement, to help men handle dailypressures of family, work, relationships, and responsibilities. These devotions provide

• encouragement for busy lives and difficult times
• guidance to shape a man’s character
• illustrations of how to serve, lead, and grow
• Scriptures for strength and wisdom
• prayers to connect with the heavenly Father

This spiritual workout will help men maximize their time with God and live out their faith through actions, words, and behaviors thathonor Him.

Rerelease of Minute Meditations for Men.

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Great book!
This is a great bible study geared to guys...we like it so much we have purchased them for other friends.Excellent!

Very Pleased
I am very impressed with this book. The picture makes it look like a small devotional book, but it is actually a medium book size, which I'm happy about. It is professionally published, well bound, and for the price is an excellent purchase. I especially like the fact that it is written for men, from a man. Again, the promptness of service from Amazon was excellent. Thank you. ... Read more

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The Spectacular 100th Issue of Black Men The World's Sexiest Women! ... Read more

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Jim Conway writes for all men who face midlife and have thought about walking away from family, work, church . . . all responsibilities, and never coming back. Of his own midlife crisis he says, "I feel like a vending machine. Someone pushes a button, and out comes an article. The family pushes buttons and out comes dollars. The community pushes other buttons. . . ."

Also available- Your Husband's Midlife Crisis by Sally Conway.

Jim Conway, Ph.D., is a popular conference speaker and counselor. He holds five earned degrees in theology and psychology, is the president of Midlife Dimensions, an international counseling and conference ministry, and is the author/coauthor of fourteen books including Pure Pleasure, Traits of a Lasting Marriage, When a Mate Wants Out, Moving On After He Moves Out, Sexual Harassment No More, and Adult Children of Legal or Emotional Divorce. ... Read more

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Very genuine and insightful
Very helpful in understanding the midlife crisis. Covers all the different stages of life as men age. I like the fact that the author shares from his own experience of going through midlife crisis.

Hit the nail on the head
I was amazed at how this writer was able to describe me so well.There was so much that I could identify with.Even though the book was written some time ago, the information still seems very accurate and relevant today. Jim Conway writes from a perspective heavy on religion, and I don't believe that "God is the answer," but I was not bothered by the religious references.In fact, stories from the Bible were useful in reinforcing some of his points.I continue to re-read this book.

Not being able to finish it
As the receiving side of spouse's MLC, concretized via emotional and physical affair with another woman, I found this book hard to read and giving me little compassion for the MLC-er point of view. The bottom line, when I decided to throw this book away, was when reading that 'competition' is good for the wife; that she should feel pushed by it and fight more for her wandering spouse. At that point I realized: is this guy (the author) over his MLC crisis or just pretends? To me, his words ressemble a lot to the words of my spouse, when trying to 'justify' his betrayal (a sort of: it's spouse's fault that they chose the other woman, because the spouse did not fight hard enough for them).

I really tried to be compassionate and understanding of MLCer point of view, because it's one of the biggest human mind misteries Iever encountered, but unfortunately you can resonate with the explanations of this book only if you are a man or if you are a woman who accepts the 'superiority' of males, in the sense that infidelity is justified by biological reasons and even by Bible in males, but has no moral grounds for females.

Not the subject for a bible lesson.
Ok, but I was surprised at the references to christianity and being a christian. What if I'm not a christian and still need help on the subject. I was taken aback and found it hard to read the book with the inferences to the new testament.

Jaw-dropping
It is not socially acceptable to write about the male mid-life crisis, as it typically invites eye-rolling from the other gender (who do so at their own risk, but I digress). So I won't. Instead, I will just write something that is no doubt too strongly worded: any guy going through it (or any woman who wonders what in the heck has happened to the man they married or to the great dad they had) is a fool - an absolute fool - if they don't read "Men In Mid-Life Crisis" by Jim Conway.

Everything finally makes sense. ... Read more

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One of the greatest heroes of the Cross in this century

Eric Liddell, hero of the film Chariots of Fire, risked becoming a national disgrace at the 1924 Paris Olympics when he refused to run on a Sunday. Disqualifying himself from the finals, Britain's hope of a medal was sacrificed as well. But the thinly veiled criticism in the press turned to sensational acclaim when Eric entered and won a race for which he was completely untrained, finishing a full five meters ahead of the favorite.

He was a celebrity, but the faith which had inspired his courageous stand stirred in him again, and at the height of his fame he announced that he was leaving athletics to return as a missionary to the land of his birth, China. This story of "God's Athlete" makes for exciting reading.

From renowned Scottish athlete to missionary in China.

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Encouraging
Encouraging for all ages - as a read aloud even. The challenges, the excitement, the blessing... My 14 year old enjoyed the book a great deal, too.

Disappointing account of a godly man
Poor writing and condescending (if not racist) attitudes toward the Chinese ruined this book. It was recommended as a language arts book for my 8th grader, but I will not let her read this account. Eric Liddell comes across as a cardboard figure in this book. I will look for another book that will do justice to the story of Eric Liddell's life and his faith in God.

A true story of a man who used the gifts God gave him.
Eric Liddell was (and still is) a shining example of what a person can do if he will use the gifts God has given him/her. It is too bad that this book did not live up to the potential that it could have been. There wasnot enough documentation of events, and the author used descriptions ofEric and events in his life that possibly were misleading, ie. ...but thethinly veiled criticism in the press turned to sensational acclaim whenEric entered-and won-a race for which he was completely untrained... Anyone who knows the story knows that Eric knew of his being in the 400meters months in advance of the Olympics. True enough, it was quite afantastic feat,however, over-sensationalism only lends weakness to thisgreat story.

A true story of man who knew what is the right thing to do.
An inspiring true story ruined by bad writing.Is this book written for children?Did the author do any research because there is no souce documented.Anyhow, this is still a wonderful true story. ... Read more

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Christian Book Previews
The Young Man in the Mirror is a great book written for teen guys ages 13 to 18. The book opens with Morley's life story which ropes the reader from the first paragraph. The author covers morals, dating situations, and other life impacting decisions.

As a 14 year guy, this book encouraged me to be a godly man and leader in this world. Morley used illustrations from his own life as examples of what to do or what not to do. He stated that men want to have a mission in life. If there is no mission, there is no life. God designed men to be protectors. A man cannot be a protector and a jerk at the same time.

Morley is a popular speaker in my area in the Midwest for men's retreats and his books are frequently used in men's Bible studies. The Young Man in the Mirror could be a Bible study opportunity for older men to mentor the next generation.

The Young Man in the Mirror instructs teenage boys how to live honorably. I tend to be a reluctant reader, but didn't have any trouble getting through this book. I passed my copy on to my friend. I recommend The Young Man in the Mirror for all young men and older men who act young. -- Josiah Wells, Christian Book Previews.com

Exceptional book for young men seeking Christ's help
This book was a quick read and full of information on God's path for young men. It served as a tool to deepen my faith and answer some difficult questions that are hard to ask someone in person. This would be a great gift for any teenage guy! ... Read more

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From the television to the Internet, print media to videos, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images.It is impossible to avoid such temptations…but, thankfully, not impossible to rise above them.

Shattering the perception that men are unable to control their thought lives and roving eyes, Every Man’s Battle shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual purity- perfect for men who have fallen in the past, those who want to remain strong today, and alll who want to overcome tempatation in the future.

“There is no more common enemy of true manhood than the diversion or the perversion of our sexual capacities.I welcome every contribution to the arsenal of resistance.”
-Jack W. Hayford, Litt.D., pastor of The Church on the Way and president of The King’s Seminary

“The vulnerable, honest, and insightful pages of this book reveal what every man must know.”
-Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

“Clear, practical principles for sexual purity…a call for courage, commitment, and self-discipline.”
-Dr. John C. Maxwell, founder of the INJOY Group

“Read with an open heart, Every Man’s Battle may save your marriage and your witness.”
-Dr. Gary Rosberg, president of America’s Family Coaches author of Guard Your Heart and The Five Love Needs of Men and Women

Includes a special section for women, designed to help them understand, empathize, and support the men they love.
... Read more

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Excellent Audio CD
As a therapist, I use this book to help those struggling with sexual sin. I like that it is faith based.It really helps men increase understanding and awareness of behaviors.Price was great!

What's The Problem?
What is the deal with having differences with this book.It offers Biblical (and practical) references to dealing with sexual temptation.God says it's not good for man to be alone.Forsake not the fellowship of meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing are a few references we should defer to when we contrast against something that is designed to help men in their resistance toward sexual temptation.

If it's against this book in particular, maybe the individual should do something to correct it rather than offering "constructive criticism."

Understanding that what I'm saying maybe unpopluar, but don't negate that the fact that what I'm saying is the truth.Support BIBLICAL literature.

Very disappointing.
This review pertains to the AUDIO CD edition of this title.

This work was a great disappointment. First, the authors tell you that you can't do this on your own even with prayer. Then in the end they offer a solution that amounts to the same thing. That is, be dedicated, pray, seek God and fight hard to break your old habits and replace them with new ones. They advise listeners that if they are actually sex addicts they will likely require months of threapy. They make liberal use of the term "goddess" when referring to women, which is problematic for Christians. There are some comments made about wives that, though apparently intended as complements, are back handed complements at best. And finally, there is no help offered for single men, since integral to their solution is the teaching that a man must find all of his sexual fulfillment from his wife.

If you are looking for help in freeing yourself from sexual sins I suggest Neil Anderson's "Bondage Breaker" and "Victory Over the Darkness" along with Joshua Harris' "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". (This last title is not about sexual addiction, rather it is a marvelous teaching on how to think biblically about women and sex.)

D's Review of EMB
I think that for the person struggling with this issue their lives will be enriched.The mental imagery can be identified with by most every man who reads this book.I don't think that hiding it by not mentioning it doesn't make it go away.I also think that the book was thoughtfully written.Don't be fooled into thinking that some things are taboo and should only be discussed in quiet little rooms.It is good to get things out into the open, especially for the proclaimed Christian out there.This book only brings to light the struggles that men face day to day.This perversion has to be tackled head on and dealt with.

D

IBG review of EMB
Great product but U must commit to read all of it, not just a portion!reading segments can be deceiving or even dangerous. If you truly want the freedom this book delivers, you must read ALL of it! ... Read more

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God’s Word is clear about the importance of godly friendships–and how God designs them to complete us spiritually. If you ever hope to win the battles you face in your spiritual journey, you must be connected to godly men.

The problem is that many men today act like they don’t need friends–and they’re paying the price. Risking relationship is not easy for men, but it’s a non-negotiable for God’s man. When you stand with others who share your spiritual goals, you achieve them faster. That’s God’s way.

Godly friendships create consistency, provide care and support, stimulate healthy confession, produce new connections, and make you complete in Christ. They produce positive changes in your character, convictions, conduct, and commitment to do life God’s way.

Learn how to build and benefit from friendships with godly men. It starts with Being God’s Man…in Pursuing Friendships. ... Read more

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GREAT BOOK!
A great book for anyone who has concerns about sexual relationships. Good for women and men. Insights into developing a good relationship with your spouse, and also why some people find it so hard to be monagomous. After I read it I purchased additional copies for friends.
Especially good for people in 12 step programs who have concerns about sexual relationships.

Lots of good things, lot of not so great things
I am not under 13, but wrote the review like that to keep my review anonymous.
There were many things I really liked about this book -- and many things I didn't.
The book's premise is if your brain associates sex with anything but loving relationships, you will be less satisfied. On the other hand, if you associate sex with one female (wife), and you verbally praise her a lot, she'll want to have sex with you and your brain will desire her more, benefiting both of you. The author was a player when he was younger, became a sex addict, found Christianity, and now counsels about sex addiction. He definitely was not the type of guy that had trouble attracting women.

I liked his explanation of how fantasy and porn affects your brain and will affect your future marriage. Too bad he didn't cite any of his sources. Nor does he tell single people how to ensure good sex in marriage (well, one is no porn, for the rest, read Sheet Music by Kevin LeMan, Finding the Love of Your Life by Neil Clark Warren, and No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover). I liked his three a day. I also liked how he emphasized the need for verbal praise with sex. I am Asian and never learned the importance of verbal praise. I also liked the rubber band technique for controlling fantasies.

What I did not like is that he gives the impression he's trying to promote his books and counseling center. Many times he cites his experience, but he never talks about the Nice Guy Syndrome - the guy who can't get women to like him and whose only choice is to masturbate. In fact, in his other book, and Joe Zychik in Most Personal Addiction make a bigger point that men who remain virgin to marriage could have bigger issues with porn and their future. A study by Sandfort in 2007 or 2008 confirmed that people who start sex later in life have more problems. I also didn't like how his chapter on shame addressed people who had felt bad about sex -- but said NOTHING about the many, many, nice guys who feel incredible shame from women never liking them. I also didn't like how the only two healthy people in his book are (1) a guy who was virgin at marriage and married his college sweetheart at age 23, and (2) a guy who had lots of sexual partners before marriage, but knew verbal praise was important. His book neglects the single guys in their 20s who can't get a girl. While this book is aimed at married people, because he has a chapter on the seductress, and that a supportive partner helps heal the best, a single guy would benefit from seeing how porn and fantasy will hurt him later. However, I thin Joe ZyChik addresses the single guy better in his free eBook, Most Personal Addiction.

A bigger question is what about premarital sex. The men who avoid it often get stuck in porn and fantasy. The author had two healthy guys - one who had lots of premarital sex, and who married right after college to his high school sweetheart. People rarely marry their high school sweetheart these days and avg age of men is 28 at marriage. So what's a guy to do? That study by Sanford, and another one by Hyde and DeLamater found that men who started being sexually active later in life had more problems. I think Sheet Music does provide some solutions without having premarital sex. Joe Zychik distiguishes ethical and unethical sex, and meaningless sex.

My recommendation is that this is a great book raising the awareness of how fantasy and porn can hurt your sex life forever. I owe it for that. And the importance of verbal praise. But read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover first. If you are contemplating marriage and want a book on having great sex once you are married, go for Sheet Music and Finding the Love of Your Life first. If you do have a problem with fantasy masturbation or pornography, take a look at the free eBook by Joe Zychik on Most Personal Addiction. It's eye opening, and a little more straightforward. I do NOT recommend Weiss's other book on Intimacy because several chapters are copies of this book, but it lacks the brain research which was the best part of this book.

For married men only
I am single, and I bought this book for advice.I recommend it only for married men.

Read and Re-Read
I have come back to this book again and again.It has helped both my husband and I understand the compulsion and the psychology at the core of the issue.It has tons of life application and is written at the perfect level for understanding.I HIGHLY recommend this book.I have read others concerning the same topic and this is the best I've come across so far!!

An informing and practical guide
The book "Sex, Men and God" is immensly helpful in understanding the underlaying reasons for sexual addiction. The problem is affecting men all over the world. Dr. Weiss gives you a thorough understanding of the problem and clear real-life examples. He also gives you practical step-by-step guidelines for working through the problems and solving them on your way to sexual success. The author obviously has years of counseling experience on the subject. I strongly recommend the book. ... Read more

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Men know all about their need for sexual purity. What they want is a plan that will enable them to attain it. In the midst of a culture that shouts 'Sex!' from every corner, men need a friend to talk honestly about how to master lust and achieve control over this crucial area of their lives.Bill Perkins details a proven biblical strategy for sexual integrity. He shows men how to achieve a purity that will flow from their relationship with God and strengthen their self-respect, the sanctity of their marriage, and the security of their families. Perkins unfolds a three-part plan that will lead men to victory.Updated to address current needs and cultural trends, When Good Men Are Tempted includes the latest information on Internet pornography. It also features 'Take Action' strategic steps and questions suitable for individual reflection or discussion in small groups. ... Read more

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viewpoint of a woman
As I am a woman, it may seem strange that I write a review about a book called "When good men are tempted".
My boyfriend recommended and gave me this book after we talked about the temptations men have to fight with. I read the book within a few hours. My first reactions while reading this book and getting to know more about this issue were astonishment and little disappointment. You may ask yourself why? I have two answers:

To all men:
In most instances we (women) don`t have the faintest idea about what you have to fight with!!! So we missinterpret your behavior and feel disliked, thinking that we are not beautiful enough, not intelligent enough, not lovely enough..., and that maybe you (the husband/boyfriend) could find a woman more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovely than ourself. These are the struggles we (women) have to fight with. But I want to encourage you to talk with your wife/girlfriend about the temptations/struggles you have to fight with. As Bill Perkins wrote, she can be your ally in these temptations, but it is only possible for her if she knows them.

To all women:
After I read this book I was a little confused. Two strong feelings were in my heart: The desire to be totally loved by my boyfriend - the man I love so much - and the knowledge about what he has to fight with everyday. So the innocent dream I had about my future (I overdraw here a little bit, but don`t you know these feelings and desires??), that my boyfriend and (hopefully) later husband will only have his eyes on me and will never find another woman attractive, was destroyed. I found myself at the ground of reality. But I decided to become the ally of my boyfriend by being at his side while fighting against the temptations.
So I want to encourage you, the wives and girlfriends, to make the same decision. Knowing that their wife/girlfriend is at their side and not a further adversary they have to "fight" with would make it much more easier for them to win the fights.

What I like specificly about this book and Bill Perkins, is the authenticy and vulnerability Bill Perkins showed. The reader can see that here wrote a man who knows these temptations by own experiences and that there is a way to handle these fights, sometimes more and sometimes less successful. But therefor in my opinion two things - as I has mentioned yet - are important: 1. Men have to talk with their wives/girlfriends about it and 2. women have to decide to be the ally of their husband/boyfriend.

WOMEN: Do NOT read this book!
I have noticed an extremely disturbing trend among the negative reviews of Mr. Perkins' book: namely, that most of them (all except one, I believe) are written by women.Let me make this as clear as possible: Women, please do not read this book!IT IS NOT WRITTEN FOR YOU!

If that wasn't exact enough, please allow me to put it another way.Mr. Perkins wrote this book to the MALE audience and so caters to the needs of MEN!Women, you should in no way expect to come to this book and find between its two covers a text catering to female sexuality or the feminist mindset.Why?Because MEN are its target audience.

I felt the need to say this because the book is getting fairly bad reviews, but many are by people who are not meant to read the book in the first place.Women, if you read this book without considering who the target audience is, then you have asked to be confused and I have no sympathy for you at all.Perkins deals with the psychology and chemistry of the MAN, NOT the WOMAN.If you are mature enough to buy and read this book, then by now you should fully be aware that men and women are profoundly different - they have different thought processes, different emotionality, and different physical needs (at least categorically).That is why I say to WOMEN yet again: DO NOT READ THIS BOOK!

This is a wonderful book, written in a very casual style.It aims to help the normal MAN to biblically and responsibly deal with his temptations.Contrary to the negative reviews, it does not demean women, it does not make them less than men, nor does it make them out to be sexual objects.Quite the opposite, Perkins seeks to help men see women for what they are - fellow humans, creations of God to be loved and honored.If you are a woman reading this book, and you are insulted with the notion of you and your gals being portrayed as objects, then be angry at society, not Perkins.Perkins uses the allusions and illustrations he does because he (and all men) are facing reality, and he (and all men) are trying to confront and defeat it.If you cannot see that Perkins is trying to honor women (and help all of his fellow men do so), then you are numbingly bias against him and the book and, therefore, should put it down and leave it be.

Once again, let me clarify that the majority of the very negative reviews were written by women who came to the book with a predisposition to find something targeted to their psyche; hence, the belligerence with which they have attacked it.Their mistake: they read a book target toward the male psyche, concerning strictly male problems.

I recommend to all women who seek to read this book: 1) Do NOT.It is not written for you.However, if you insist on reading it anyway, then: 2) Please read "His Needs, Her Needs" by Willard Harley first, as a primer to this book.That way, you will better understand the topic, the intent with which Perkins writes, and the audience to which he writes (which, again, is not you ... please remember that).

After saying all of that, allow me to conclude by saying this: I think this is a very beneficial and insightful book, and it should be in every Christian man's library.

From A Wife's Point of View
While this book was written for men, I feel that Mr. Perkins is missing a great deal of truth about this addiction.The book was recommended to my husband and his friend as a basis for starting a small group to address his sexual addiction.My husband skimmed through the book before he started to read it and suggested I read the chapter "For Wives Only".In this chapter, Mr. Perkins compares a man's sexual addiction to a woman's compulsive overeating.The two problems couldn't be further from each other except that they are perhaps both addictions.A woman's overeating (or a man's for that matter) does not seem to cause the same devastation to loved ones that a sexual addiction does.A man's sexual addiction causes a wife to feel rejected, worthless, sick and crushed (just to name a few of the myriad of responses felt to the knowledge of this betrayal).It is a personal relational betrayal which a food addiction is not.

In addition, to suggest that a wife not respond with "an emotional outburst" is cruel, ridiculous and impossible unless we are zombies.We have every right to be upset by our husband's behavior, and God gave us our emotions.If we hold them in instead of being honest about how we feel, then we are liars just like our husbands.

This book, from a wife's point of view, makes excuses for a husbands sexual addiction and I am praying that God leads mine away from Mr. Perkins writings to someone's who really understands both sides of this horribly destructive addiction, makes no excuses for it, and helps men to understand that they are not only hurting their wives and families in an extremely selfish and permanent way, but they are doing the same to themselves.

If Mr. Perkins wants to write a book for men only that placates them and makes excuses, then he should remove the chapter addressed to wives until he truly understands what this addiction is really all about.

Too explicit to be helpful and not harmful
I am a Christian woman who discovered my husband's sex addiction of 23 years almost three years ago. I have read many of the books out there on sex addiction to try and understand my husband better, and this one is the worst one I have read. I think there are so many good Christian books out there on the topic of lust and masturbation and sex addiction that skipping this one is best. The author does say some things about how if you focus on being a "man of God" that you won't lust. But, he uses too many graphic examples of life experiences that will put more images into your head than is helpful. If you read the new book Destined to Reign by Joseph Prince, you will get a ton of information on being the righteousness of God and how to see yourself as God sees you.

Plus he has a chapter specifically on masturbation and he does not come out and say it is wrong. He just has "guidelines" that if you can do it without lusting, or depriving your wife, etc. then he does not think it is a big deal. I totally disagree with that. I believe it is wrong. I believe he is leaving an open door for men to "justify" doing it. My husband was wracked with guilt over it for 23 years, how can that make it right and healthy for a man to do? Especially Christian men who want to stay pure and to have a godly, Christ-centered marriage. A married couple should commit to gaining sexual pleasure only from each other, as is biblically mandated. Period.

Plus in one of the later chapters the author goes into explicit detail on how a man should please his wife sexually. I know there may be an appropriate format to do that, but this book was not supposed to be a sex manual. This chapter is totally unnecessary and very inappropriate in a book for men who are trying to combat lust.

Overall, I would give this book no stars if I could. Here are a few books that my husband and myself found extremely helpful: Pure Desire, At the Alter of Sexual Addiction, False Intimacy, and Patrick Carnes books, Out of the Shadows and Don't Call It Love. For understanding your mate: For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.

Finally, if you decide to bite into this book, you will get a mouth full of gravel, instead of the truthful nourishment all of those other books I listed will give you.

Best Single Resource for Men's Sexual Temptations
I've read several books addressing the sexual temptations men face, but none of them are as helpful as this one.Author Bill Perkins talks frankly with men about sexual struggles, admitting the struggles, finding freedom, and then remaining free.He has one chapter near the end of the book for the wives of men who may be struggling, which gives clearer insight as to why men often behave as they do.While clearly condemning sin, the author focuses upon the believing man remembering his new identity in Christ.I recommend this title be on every Christian man's bookshelf. ... Read more

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This book was written to help Christian men understand the role God designed for them and how to live Biblical manhood. The author believes what this nation needs today is a few good men; men who will live by the Biblical principles of honesty, courage, loyalty, self-discipline, and above all, Godliness. Over the past several generations, men have lost a great deal of their masculinity. Parenting, marriage, government, business, and the church have been damaged as a result. Being a Man explains this demise, the Biblical roles of Christian masculinity, and the road back to responsible manhood. If you are a Christian man who would like to be a Spiritually-mature leader, this book is for you. God intends for men to be conquerors in this age. Are you ready to be one? ... Read more

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Much good, but some bad that is not Bible-based
I read What the Bible Says about Being a Man because many in our church were reading this book and spreading the word that wives should not be working outside the home.Having studied the Bible thoroughly, I wanted to know what I missed that said a woman should not work outside the home, because I had never found that in the Bible.I was disappointed that Mr. Fugate has other declarations in this book that are not supported by the Bible, and those may be wrong as well, and yet people will accept it because of the title of his book.

I would be very leery of titling a book "What the Bible Says About..." because it has to be thoroughly Biblical and cannot rely on personal experience, anecdotal examples, or even statistics.Mr. Fugate does rely on some very shoddy resources to back some of his claims.

My first red flag was Mr. Fugate's confession that he was a machismo man, and I see throughout the book a checkmark by sports and guns and a big X by the arts for men.This is a bias he has developed, and it is not Biblical, and he doesn't even know it.

Mr. Fugate says many common sense things which need to be said and with which I whole-heartedly agree.Women's and men's emotions are different; "Home Improvement" was a funny show, but got old fast as the father-figure was constantly belittled; and more.He comments that women in politics caused liberalism, which is an interesting concept, but I think it is a little simplistic.Perhaps they tend more toward liberalism with their nurturing makeup...

He divides the generations of the US into 20-year segments with names, which is interesting, but I don't agree with his equating them to a specific passage in Proverbs.It is a little mismatched.

One horrific example of his sources is the poem about girls being sugar and spice and citing this poem as an example of how to expect girls and boys to behave.He speaks as if only boys carry original sin.I guess he never had a daughter.While he says boys are put down in the education system, I think girls are put down too, in other ways perhaps.

This is amazing, this statement:"A combination of the matriarchal society (especially concerning school-age boys) and absent fathers (for training boys into men of character) set up the current demise of America." p. 35He says that honesty, trustworthiness, loyalty, bravery and courage are the Male code that holds up society.This is all hogwash.Men and women need Christ to exhibit the fruit of the spirit, such horribly-feminine traits like love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, gentleness, and self-control.Sorry if they are so wimpy, but that's what the Spirit does according to the Word of God (and they are NOT wimpy).

Not to mention that I see a point to the overly-matriarchal influence on our society causing some of the liberalism that has destroyed America, and fathers shirking their duties as fathers aiding in that, but those are not the only two reasons for the demise of America.Mr. Fugate to make a strong statement for his book, which is a good idea to do to sell books, but either he is being inaccurate for the sake of drama, or he is deluded to the point of insanity.

One chapter was fluff and puff and very little substance, a waste of my time.His psychoanalysis is anecdotal, simplistic, and probably wrong.Macho men are angry toward women for trying to feminize them.Period.They need strenuous activity or sports to fix them.Period.Implied is that studying a musical instrument or applying oneself to any intellectual or artistic endeavor will not work.

"Mothers and teachers love this type of [emasculated or effeminate] boy because he is no trouble (not disobedient), he is helpful around the house, generally does well in academics, and doesn't even get dirty often."His implication is that a proper boy ought to:be trouble, be disobedient, not be helpful around the house, do poorly in academics, for academics are not for boys, boys should just go out and get dirty.Anti-intellectual, anti-artistic, etc.

He delves into a chronology of specific Satanic philosophies introduced into our society and I think he does a great job on this, and it is interesting and important.

Finally, when he does get to specifics about women and work, he has no backing of consequence.He says women's arm muscles are specifically designed to cradle babies, laundry and groceries, as if laundry and groceries have been around for millennia.He uses 1Pet. 3:7 to basically say that women are not really individuals unto themselves, but only helpmates to men and to help them in their calling.

I don't mind that he uses psychology and statistics to attempt to support his claims, but maybe not in a book titled, "What the Bible Says..."The Apostles and Jesus don't even fit into his mold of a Biblical man, as they sacrificed family for the gospel, and did not go for profits or success.

One chapter's references were:an ABC news documentary, a book, an encyclopedia, and two magazines.This reminds me of Eric Holder testifying before Congress with only the information that he heard on the news.These are not adequate sources, and again, what about the Bible?

When women teach from the Bible, they only focus on the love aspect.This is not true in any teaching of women of which I know.I'm sure there are some that only teach that aspect, but that does not by any means mean all.

He finally gets to the claim for which I have been waiting, and says some really good things, like, people ought to be content with one income so mom (I say a parent) can stay home with the children."God designed the man to work outside the home, not the woman.Consider:"Gen. 3:16-19 (I don't see it here.)Prov. 31:10-31 (this is the exact opposite in several different ways!) 1Tim. 5:8-10, 16(I don't see women not working outside the home here either.)So as far as I can tell, I was right, there is no Biblical basis for women not working outside the home.I agree that a parent should be home with school-aged children, homeschooling them, but the parents can split the work outside the home.

He states that women working outside the home may cause more divorce, but has no backing here.Working outside the home does possibly cause temptation, for either parent.Men have affairs working outside the home.

I like his concept that wives respond to our initiative, they become how we treat them.Prov. 21:19 and 27:15-16 are contentious women descriptions, and "you helped to make her what she is today."I like that he encourages men to love their wives even if they don't receive it, for it is what we are told to do, and God will bless our efforts to do right.

I very much disagree with the concept of self-esteem, confidence in self, the ego.This is absolute worldly wisdom.The scriptures clearly teach that we are wrapped up in Christ, and our confidence comes from being in Him, and having the Holy Spirit within us.I understand it is difficult to do anything at first, surrendering our will to Christ, but it is the only way, and we grow as we do it and are able to accomplish His work.

He has great characteristics of a leader, but has a terrible reference to Matt. 7:24-27 and the building of the house on the rock meaning competence.It means to build your life, your belief system, your decision, upon Jesus and His truth.

Mr. Fugate ends the book well with many good points.He is an amazing man, and I do acknowledge his devotion to the true God and to God's Word, and I also appreciate his dedication to study the Word of God thoroughly.Given his background and the company he seems to keep, I am surprised at some of the shallowness of this book.He makes statements that have no support from the Bible or from science or whatever he attempts to use.Some of his statements are supported by very shallow non-Biblical support.It is absolutely fine for a book author to go outside of the Bible for support, but not in a deceptive manner by mixing it with Biblical concepts or saying it is a Biblical concept, and not in a book so specifically titled as this one is.

He has much common sense (again, not so much from the Bible), and he has some Biblical points as well.I have noted many original and/or remarkable statements he makes that I really like and learned from.However, he suffers from his own limited experiences and puts those forward as a foundation for all truth.He also is very shallow about what boys and girls are, and what men and women are, and his support, as I stated above, is horrible!

I really, really wanted to know where he found Biblical support for women not working outside of the home.Again, of the three passages he cites on page 107 (noted above), only one is related to the woman working outside the home and it has several statement about her working outside the home as being positive.And only three passages!

I am afraid that people who don't read much read a book like this and swallow it hook-line-and-sinker.We must read critically and see what is Biblical, what is common sense (also from God), what is opinion, and what is wrong.Much of what may be wrong in this book is because of Mr. Fugate's limited anecdotal experience.This is unforgivable in an author purported to be writing a definitive book about an important subject.I appreciate the good things he said and I pray that they are the things that stick and change people who read this book.

No practical advice included.
This books is written in a critical spirit. It describes all the negatives influences for a negative Christian young man, but aside from decrying absentee fathering, gives no step by step direction for raising GODLY sons. What a shame.....

Not as expected
Both my husband & I were not very thrilled with this book at all,..maybe its just us,....L

Stop what your doing and read this book
Mr. Fugate does an outstanding and unapologetic overview of biblical principles of manhood. He has also done a great job exposing many western misconceptions surrounding the definitions of masculine behavior. This book is a true beacon for the modern man seeking to live life after the Lords orgininal desgin in a fallen (and very confused) world.

Great Book!
This is a great book!It's very conservative and Scripturally sound.The first part of the book is a philosophical look at the many misconceptions of what it means to be a man, followed by a Biblical look at what it means to be a man, an examination of man's role as "Provider", "Protector", and what it means to "cherish your wife."It discusses Biblical leadership, characteristics of a leader, and what it means to be a father.
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As a devoted Christian, passionate speaker, and prolific author, Jim George has taught, trained, counseled, andmentored men from all walks of life. He brings more than 25 years of ministry to this bestselling book (more than 110,000 sold), now rereleased with a helpful study guide and new cover. In it he explains that a man’s heartfelt desire to grow spiritually is all that’s needed—God’s grace does the rest. The reader will find instruction and be encouraged to make lasting changes to his:

• Marriage—leading, loving, and protecting his wife God’s way
• Work—cultivating attitudes and actions that make a difference
• Witness—putting God on display in his life and words

Within this book, men are invited to embark on a journey toward greater growth and maturity; to make giant stridestoward truly becoming a man after God’s own heart.

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A great book
I love the book, it has been a help to me, and my relationship with God and my wife.

Great gift for men searching to enrich their lives by following Christ.
Gift was greatly appreciated by male friend (who I knew at one time had prayed that God would give him the herat of David.) Highly recommend "A Man After God's Own Heart"

One of the best books I have ever read
If you are striving to be a man after God's own heart, than this book is for you.This book has changed my life.I took some of the principles of it and no matter what situation I am in, I use the principles in the book to get me through.After reading this book, I have cut some things out of my life that were hindering my walk with God.This book is going to change your whole mindset.If you are serious in your christian walk, than don't hesitate to get this book.

Great book for guys
If you're looking for a book that will guide you in developing your spiritual life, "A Man After God's Own Heart" is a great place to start. The chapters are concise and to the point. The focus is practical. The style is conversational, not intellectual or preachy. Jim speaks like a coach and encourages you to do what's right. The book also covers a lot of ground, touching on all the relationships in your life - with God, with your wife, with your children, with your work, with church, and with people outside the church. I'm going through the book with a group of guys, and it's been a great springboard into good discussions.

Book Review: A Man After God's Own Heart
Awesome book.Learn what God has is store for you, and what really matters in life!Money isn't all that matters...take a look in the mirror and make the change.Change your heart, and others WILL follow! We bought this for a Bible study group - 25 books.We thought we would just donate the leftover books to our Church, but every book went and we purchased more at a local Christian bookstore.We recommend this book whole-heartedly! ... Read more

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Men's breakfasts, golf outings, and other events still have a place in men's ministry. But Steve Sonderman is finding that the most effective ministry is relational rather than programmatic. Drawing from the successes at his church and others, Sonderman shows leaders how to motivate and mobilize their men to minister to each other. Readers learn what men are looking for today, how men grow spiritually, and how to develop a leadership pipeline in their church. ... Read more

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Formulaic, but Worthwhile
Men's ministry is all too often something of an afterthought for churches, usually taking the form of periodic breakfasts and fellowship outings that have anemic spiritual content and few long-term goals for growth. In Mobilizing Men, Steve Sonderman, builds a case for churches to intentionally pursue a model for discipling men based on relationships rather than activities, and people rather than programs.

Sonderman diagnoses the weak spiritual growth of most of today's Christian men as a symptom of aloneness. He says that churches too often leave men to grow on their own, and that leaves men stumbling through life with too little direction and protection, handicapping their ability to lead and undercutting their potential for ministry.

He urges pastors and churches to inculcate in their men a commitment to Christ that is developed and strengthened through prayer, through commitment to one another, and through fleshing out faith in ministry to others. He breaks down his plan through observations about the nature of the male psyche, and the unique needs of men for spiritual growth. Sonderman then launches into several "how-to" chapters (on discipleship, mobilization, leadership development, small groups, etc.) grounded in a faithful study of Scripture and his own experiences from years of ministering to men through the local church.

While books on specific areas of ministry are quite common, Sonderman's stands out not because it is innovative but because it is a refreshing recommitment to the tried and true building blocks of all effective discipleship: prayer, Scripture, fellowship, study, and outward ministry. Though somewhat formulaic in style, He offers a needed reminder that the work of the Church has always been accomplished by "apprenticeship" (that is, the careful discipleship of new believers that leads them into a deeper and more active faith) more than any other method. If the Church is to take back masculinity from the world and build the next generation of leaders, we would do well to follow his example and start discipling our men.
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If you've ever wondered if there's more to intimacy than you and your spouse are experiencing, you've taken the first step toward finding it. Accept the challenge of affirming and following your wife's needs and desires. The Penners reveal what every man must know about a woman--and what every woman wishes her spouse knew as well. ... Read more

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A must read for men - and women
Ever wondered how to solve the problem of the differences between men and women?This book goes a long ways in doing that.Short and easy to read, this couple gently and clearly untangle some of the Gordian Knots of sexual relationships and present a loving and fun way to re-establish your love life.

This Book Saved our Marriage!
My wife was molested by her father when shewas young and I did not understand the impact on our sex life.This was the first book of severalthat I read to figure out what I needed to do to improve our sex life.Asa man, the book clearly guided me to put the onus for our sex life for meon me.The author recommends that men go in the direction of their wifeand he is right!

Wow!This is good stuff!And it's biblical.
This book was informative and inspiring, to say the least.I'm a singleChristian male and I feel it is my role to "take charge" of therelationship in every respect.I've learned that when it comes to sex,it's usually best if she takes charge.I'm looking forward to living theprinciples in this book out in my future marrage.Men: Buy the book andremember all that it reveals.You will not regret it.

Men and Sex is the best sex manual for men...period.
This is an invaluable guide to men who really want to make something oftheir sex life.It is written from a Christian perspective making itespecially valuable and unique, but non-Christianswill benefit too.

Thebook approaches sexuality from the position that it is the man's actionwhich ultimately dictate the level of fulfillment in a sexual relationshipwhen he is sensitive enough to be guided by the woman.Men and Sex makes avery strong case that women must embrace their own sexuality and be freedby the man to express it for the relationship to be truly satisfying.

Inshort, this is probably the best guide to a sexually fulfillingrelationship a man is likely to find anywhere. ... Read more

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ISBN: 0768423716 We are losing a generation of men. Not to drugs, not to crime, but to fatherlessness. What we have instead is a generation of boys, raised by women, who don't know what it is to ... Read more

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Its....OK
I guess it was an ok read.Seems kinda like the promise keepers handbook,...i guess others have noticed that as well.I would recommend Wild at Heart instead.Disappointing was the use of an endorsement by Kile Bateman, a man whose lack of integrity is pretty staggering.

Iron Man Material that hits the Mark
There's several things you can say about this book that would be right on the mark.

1.It's a decidedly Christian Book written by and targeted to those familiar with the Promise Keepers/Iron Man movement.

2.As such it is unapologetic in the values it promotes and is designed to promote a value system as well as helpful hints related to parenting for a Father.

3.It is written in response to the idea that a patriarchal or Christian value based family is not desirable and as such it is counter-cultural.

All that said the primary value of the book is not as an apologetics type defense of these values, which frankly, it doesn't really attempt to accomplish, but rather the practical ideas that are given as to how to be a better Man, Husband and primarily a Father.

The chapters are short and the book moves quickly in a stream of conscience type way that throws a constant barrage of practical pointers and ideas.If some of the ideas seem contradictory it is because it is a book of practice, not theory and different approaches in different situations are warranted.

This is not a clinical book.It is written to an intended audience on the assumption that the reader wants the values wrapped around the suggestions.If you're not a part of that intended audience, you may find the book comes across a little condescendingly but then, it's intended to be direct and practical and to hit hard, fast and with intentional focus on elements that are assumed rather than defended.

I frankly found the book to be practically helpful although I wished there were a little more foundation given.

4 Stars.Recommended.

Bart Breen

Highly recommend
Reviewed by Richard Blake for Reader Views (5/07)

Dr. John King's new book, "It's a Guy Thing: Helping Guys Become Men, Husbands and Fathers," discusses the role that fathers play in the home, their role as husbands, steps to true fatherhood, how to model a good marriage for your kids, and how to become the best man, husband and father you can be.

The book takes the stance that in our society the absence of fathers in the home has become an epidemic. King believes that, in order to solve this problem, men must break the cycle and reevaluate their roles as men, husbands, and fathers. This epidemic is having a profound effect on a boy's maturation process. Studies reveal that the absence of a father in the home contribute to a wide range of social deficiencies, behavioral disorders, drug and alcohol abuse, youth suicides, high school dropouts, and juvenile delinquency.

When there is no father figure in the home, young boys grow up without the necessary guidelines for becoming well adjusted husbands, fathers, and responsible members of society.

John's insights touch the heart of a man and challenge him to be his best. An example: "Your kids will model what you teach them.They're sponges. Be aware that you're teaching them all the time!I can tell my kids to respect people, but what really teaches them respect is seeing me put those words into action by respecting people."

King communicates what it means to be a man of God, that men have a high and holy calling to be Godly men.He addresses key issues and foundational truths for becoming a man of God.

King speaks from lessons he learned through his own experiences as husband and father. John writes man to man in an easy-to-read style. The format of short chapters addressing a specific focus on important topics in each chapter makes this a book to be treasured to read again and again. The importance of this life changing book will make it a "redi-reference" for future review.

I strongly recommend "It's a Guy Thing" as an equipping tool for pastors, counselors, dads, and husbands.The message is timely, relevant, and important with timeless answers for those "Frequently Asked Questions" men are asking in today's society.This is a guidebook, a manual, for men of all ages.

This Is One Great Book!
I certainly amnot be a guy and of course I'm not a dador husband but I have to say I truly enjoyed and learned from this outstanding book by Dr. John King. Packed inside of this gem of a work is heartfelt, life learned advise for any man who truly wants to be the husband and father every wife and child deserves to have.
Dr. King takes the reader through some inside checks, touching their outlook as a dad, how their past can effect their dad-self and he begins to give some great insight into turning things around, what is important, why, and how to implement changes that will make a difference. He also gives some short but meaningful story examples that many will relate to.
I loved just about everything this book had to offer. The cover is great, the outlay is fun, the advise useful and simply to understand and actually quite simple toput into practice in your life. All in all this is a great book that I am truly proud to give my recommendation to. Men - you need to pick this one up; in my humble opinion if you read this with an open heart, ready to make a few adjustments, the advise in this book will give you a wealth of good seeds that will produce a bountiful harvest in your life and the life of your wife and children. Excellent job Dr. King!
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This book is a serious indictment on the Church, the Body of Christ, Pastors, church leaders and families to stop the charade, lying, manipulation, emasculation and witchcraft which has become a well orchestrated “circus” better known as Sunday Morning Service! God is not pleased and it is evident!The title of this book, along with the cover was not conceived by the publishers or some slick marketing firm. I am sick and tired of watching these arrogant Pastors manipulate the Word of God to benefit their own lustful desires. ... Read more

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A Pressing Need
"What is wrong with our Black Men?" "Why are there some 10.4 % of African Americans Incarcerated?" In this new millennium why are we worse off than we were after the Emancipation Proclamation? A written masterpiece that dares to answer the questions that challenge the oldest, of our African American Institutions, the Church, in its sacred duty. ... Read more

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The problems men face today are not new; they have been around since the time of the Bible. Insensitivity, lust, individualism, absence, manipulation, unresolved anger--even a cursory study of Bible characters will expose all of these moral and emotional battles. Jeffrey E. Miller challenges men to acknowledge their common struggles and weaknesses to help them become better men. Developed from his featured Bible teaching series on Bible.org, Occupational Hazards of Being a Man focuses on a different Old Testament personality with a unique problem in every chapter. Miller tackles these tough and pervasive issues to help men realize that these hazards are not unique to them, but that they are issues that all men face--and can overcome. This honest and freeing book is perfect for men's small groups, pastors, counselors, and individuals. ... Read more

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Good Discussion Maker
Wanted to start up a men's small group at church.Bought the book and read a couple chapters.The small group started with 6 people and we read the first chapter.Had about a 1.5 hour discussion.We're meeting for the second time and the group is now at twelve people.The book is great as it compares modern issues with biblical figures.Has reviews and questions at the end of each chapter.It is great to get men to talk about things we normally won't talk about.Highly recommend for personal or group study.

Best self-help book I have ever read.
As stated in my title, and the prior 2 reviews - which sum up everything about the book, this is AWESOME!History from the bible applied to today's world.History is nothing if we cannot learn from the mistakes of our & others' pasts - which is what this book tries to do.HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!!!Follows a similar format to that of the GREAT BANQUET 72 hour 'retreat' aka Walk of Emmaeus - but touched home even closer to me - because each of the biblical figures represented were hand chosen by GOD to do his works - AND THEY STILL SCREWED UP!!Most were, nevertheless, still considered great, and we can learn how to follow their examples!!And also correct ourselves from learning from their mistakes before or after we have fallen prey to the great deceiver!!

Great for Men who want to avoid the pitfalls of life
I am using this as the basis for a men's sermon series in my church.It deals with real issues that face men every day.Not only have I personally been challenged, I have been better able to recognized destructive behavior in some of the men I counsel with and help them better understand how they are self-destructing.The discussion questions help bring it home in terms of applying the biblical principles addressed.This would be great for personal edification, a group study, or as a topical sermon series.

Tackling Twelve Tests, Trials, and Hazards Common to Men
Jeffrey E. Miller, Senior Pastor at Trinity Bible Church in Richardson, Texas, examines twelve struggles common to men today in light of lessons we can learn from men of the Bible who faced these same challenges.
The book is divided into twelve topical chapters exploring the trials faced by men, in their role as husband, father, leader, or friend. Included in the book are questions for individual study or group discussion.These thought provoking reflection questions direct the reader to consider action steps that can be taken to live as a better man.Additional assignments include scriptures to memorize and Bible passages to read. These assignments further enhance the use of this book as a study tool.
I personally found the chapters on "Misplaced Priorities" and "Insensitivity" particularly helpful to me as a husband and father.I was also made aware of the danger of being guilty of "Manipulation."I learned from the lessons of Abram's life that I have a need to trust God more, regardless of difficult circumstances.
The book also provides background material for Sunday school teachers, and pastors. The contemporary, practical lessons offer a fresh approach on Christian living for contemporary men based on the teaching of the Bible. Whether dealing with "Unresolved Anger", "Discontentment", or "Lust", there are lessons for the Christian Businessman, for the wayward college student, or for a pastor or church staff member.
Each chapter begins with a selected quote from a well known author or Christian leader that directs the reader to consider the deeper meaning of the material being considered.
Jeffrey Miller articulates clearly Christian principles through stories and illustrations from the lives of others that help the reader avoid these common hazards, by learning from the mistakes of others. The chapters in this book are excellent material for casual discussion or formal study. This is a book about men for men, a model for how to overcome twelve challenges all men face.



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A little wisdom for life. . .just for men. Enrich your everyday life. Open to any page to find the daily encouragement you need to put joy in this incredible journey called life. ... Read more

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Purchase for my son...
I actually purchase this book for my son; whom lives out of town and I felt he needed some encouragement at this point in his life. Even though he doesn't talk directly about the book, I have witness a change in his attitude. ... Read more