Extractions: As the school year comes to an end, many parents are looking forward to the extra time they will spend with their children while also realizing this time out of school will dictate a need for more rules and structure around the house. Because of this, many students will take on more responsibility over the summer in regards to household chores. The following information from Helping Children at Home and School , Edited by Andrea S. Canter and Servio A. Carroll, may help when trying to make a decision on how to approach this issue. by Fred Provenzano, Ph.D., NCSP University of Washington, Seattle Background Development Children begin with household chores as soon as they have the motor development to do so, usually by the age of three. In fact, children of this age often enjoy helping and imitating their parents in household cleaning duties and tasks. Early chores should involve the mutual cooperation of the parent and child. As the child matures in age and competence, you can reduce your direct involvement. In general, the progression of chores moves from simple to complex, and also from chores that focus on self-care to chores that help the family in general. For example: Pre-School - Focus on immediate self-care and imitation such as dress self, pick-up own toys.
Extractions: Here's what families are saying about the Chores and More system: "I'm a psychiatric nurse who works with gang members. You'd think I could figure out a way to get my 13 year old to do his chores. After using Chores & More I realized I was being too dictatorial. This systems gives my son a choice, he's involved in the process of choosing chores and rewards, and he is learning responsisbility. We had tried alot of other systems and this one finally worked!" (Working mom from Oregon) "The kids love it! I'm really excited about using this system along with my homeschooling. Chores & More offers me another avenue to train my children to be prepared for life, to have good manners, to show respect, and to be more responsible. Thank you!" (Shelly, a home-school mom)
Extractions: Editor, Momtomom.com, a Positive Parenting website featuring interactive discussion boards. Have chores become an area of conflict How do you determine what chores are appropriate for your child? You should consider her age and ability as well as her personality and temperament. For example, if your child weighs only 60 pounds, you should probably walk the Great Dane yourself. Likewise, if your son really enjoys vacuuming but hates dusting, it would be good to take that into account when assigning chores. Most children should have a few chores a day in addition to regular routine things such as hanging up their coat and putting away their school bag when they come in the door. Remember that if you can eliminate "make work", you will have fewer and easier chores for everyone. The suggestion below will give you an idea of some age-appropriate chores. Typical chores for very young children are helping with toy cleanup, wiping up spills, taking items to the trash, stacking papers or magazines, putting away videos and dressing self when they are able. This should include putting the dirty clothes in the hamper. A three- or four-year-old can dress herself, make her bed (perhaps not perfectly, but she can get the covers pulled up), clear her place at the table, hold the dustpan while you sweep, etc.
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Extractions: by Monica Resinger With it being summer vacation for the kids, a lot of us may be experiencing a messier house than usual. A solution to this would be to give the kids daily chores or, what I like to call it, homemaking school. Homemaking school will not only help the house stay tidier, but will also give your kids valuable lessons in housecleaning and responsibility that they will need now and later in life. As I was growing up, I didn't have many chores. All that was expected of me was to do the dishes after dinner and keep my room clean (which I barely did). Later when I got my own place, I discovered a few problems as a result of not learning how to do certain household tasks. One of these problems was lack of organization. In my parents' home as I was growing up, most everything was kept for later use or for sentimental value. Since I grew up this way, this is how I ran my household; I didn't know any other way. I found out after a period of time that this was not going to work for me. My tiny apartment wasn't as big as mom and dad's house and it wasn't long until my place was bulging with too much stuff. It has taken me years to train myself to be more organized and the job has gotten more challenging with children and husband. I'm still in training' and still not that organized, but there has been a lot of improvement. The point is that if we can begin training our children early, they can have an easier time when they get out on their own.
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Extractions: Your Money Matters Home Page Newspaper Column 1995-9 Your Money Matters by Michael Kelly CREATING A FINANCIAL HERITAGE FOR YOUR CHILDREN Did you ever dream about what life would be like if you had been born to parents who were multi-millionaires? Designer clothes, a sports car for your 16th birthday present, a country estate for a wedding gift... Yes, your life could be a different one. We have no choice on how much money we receive in the beginning of life. What is our choice, however, is how we use the resources we have. A college graduate can end up on the streets and a child from a poor inner-city family can become president of a Fortune 500 company. The difference is often not the amount of money, but the attitude and use of money. How much time, not money, have you invested in creating a financial heritage for your children? When I say financial heritage, I don't mean the money we leave behind in our will, but what we teach our children about money. It's teaching them not to love or fear money, but how to use it for good. All parents can create a financial heritage for their children regardless of the size of their savings account. Even as early as the age of 3 parents can begin teaching children about money. A 3 year old does not have much need or even have an interest in an allowance. But you can give them a piggy bank and some coins from time to time to put in the bank. Beginning around age 5 you can give them a dollar and explain that they can buy some candy or a toy, but not both. By doing this they learn that managing money involves choices. Give them the freedom to decide how they will spend it and at the same time teach them that there are limits and choices.
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Extractions: Getting your child to do chores Getting a child to do the assigned chores they are responsible for can be as difficult as pulling teeth, but it doesn't have to be. By setting guidelines and rules, you will still have to endure the headache of listening to children complain about having to do chores, but they will none the less do the tasks you ask of them. Assigning chores to children is a wonderful value to give. You not only teach them about cleanliness, but they also learn about time management and respect for others property. bodyOffer(32115) To get started, you'll need to make a list of chores that need to be done in your house on a regular basis. You will want to include jobs such as taking out the garbage, washing the dishes, taking care of pets and doing yard work. Each child who is over the age of 10 should also be responsible for cleaning their own room and doing their own laundry. Now, I know what you're thinking... A 10 year old doing laundry? Yes, you heard me correctly, any child over the age of 10 should be able to operate a washer and dryer. Take the time to show them how to separate colors and how to operate the machines. If you don't feel comfortable allowing your children to use the washer and dryer, at least have them fold, hang, and put away their own clothing. Divide the list among your children, assigning equally difficult/easy tasks among them to avoid arguments. Another option is to give them the list of weekly assignments and allow them to compromise the list between themselves. However, if you choose to let them decide how to divide up chores, be sure to stay out of arguments. Leave the deciding up to them!
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Extractions: Our other special issues books E-mail this page to a friend Teaching Children to Manage Their Money People who have some experience managing money in childhood have an easier time handling their finances in adulthood. The vast majority of people have learned how to spend money when they leave home, but few have learned to budget or save money effectively. Parents who wish to teach their children to manage money in childhood can be confused about which way to go about it. Do they give out allowances? Give money for doing chores? Pay children for good grades? According to Elizabeth Crary, parent educator and author of Pick Up Your Socks , what you do depends on what you want to teach your children about money. "People need to understand that money is a resource they can use wisely or unwisely," writes Crary, pointing out that children need to have some experience with money in order to develop good skills for adulthood. Three common systems families use are: The Dole System.
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Extractions: Development Workplace Success Motivation ... Personal Relationships : Kids and Chores - It's Worth the Trouble By Jeff M. Gold, Ed.S. What parent hasn't faced the hassle of getting the kids to do assigned chores? Often getting the chores done seems more work for us than the actual chores are for them. And while just doing the chores ourselves may sometimes seem easier, it's not the right answer. Ensuring that kids do assigned tasks is a key factor in helping children develop and grow in positive ways. Related Features Articles Setting goals for more effective parenting Five finger approach to good communication How can concerned parents help? Is it time to talk to your kids about drugs? Books More book recommendations Websites NEW Student Assistance Program CampusBlues.com SchoolBlues.com StopLoneliness.com Even simple chores can play a vital role in our children's development and in promoting a positive and supportive family environment. Chores connect the child, even at a young age, to the family unit. When your child does chores, he or she is helping the family and learning to be an important part of it. That's an important step in the development of self-esteem and family esteem, and helps lead to feeling like an active and contributing member of society later in life. Completing assigned chores also teaches responsibility and meeting expectations. However, it's very important to make the chores age and skill-appropriate so that the child will have every chance to succeed at assigned tasks.
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Extractions: Alice Crites, Northeast Clark County Extension Educator Deciding whether to give an allowance is a family by family decision. It may not be practical for every family to give their children allowances. Not every family feels they can afford them. Some parents simply may not want to give an allowance. Parents use allowances to teach children how to make decisions, how to prioritize between needs and wants, and how to handle money. Parents are often motivated to start giving an allowance as a way to avoid disputes with children. While an allowance may or may not have the desired effect on family harmony, it does provide parents with an excellent opportunity to teach their children valuable lessons about money. Parents also get the chance to teach family values about money. A few questions for parents to consider in making the allowance decision are: What are the benefits for your children and for your family? What are the disadvantages? Do you currently give money to your children? If yes, how much and how is the money used? Parents may be in for a surprise once they have the answer to how much money they are currently giving to their children even without an allowance system in place. How much money should you give and at what age?
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