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What happens to Queen Bees and Wannabes when they grow up?

Even the most well-adjusted moms and dads can experience peer pressure and conflicts with other adults that make them act like they’re back in seventh grade. In Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads, Rosalind Wiseman gives us the tools to handle difficult situations involving teachers and other parents with grace. Reassuring, funny, and unfailingly honest, Wiseman reveals:

• Why PTA meetings and Back-to-School nights tap into parents’ deepest insecurities

• How to recognize the archetypal moms and dads—from Caveman Dad to Hovercraft Mom

• How and when to step in and step out of your child’s conflicts with other children, parents, teachers, or coaches

• How to interpret the code phrases other parents use to avoid (or provoke) confrontation

• Why too many well-meaning dads sit on the sidelines, and how vital it is that they step up to the plate

• What to do and say when the playing field becomes an arena for people to bully and dominate other kids and adults

• How to have respectful yet honest conversations with other parents about sex and drugs when your values are in conflict

• How the way you handle parties, risky behavior, and academic performance affects your child

• How unspoken assumptions about race, religion, and other hot-button subjects sabotage parents’ ability to work together

Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is filled with the kind of true stories that made Wiseman’s New York Times bestselling book Queen Bees & Wannabes impossible to put down. There are tales of hardworking parents with whom any of us can identify, along with tales of outrageously bad parents—the kind we all have to reckon with. For instance, what do you do when parents donate a large sum of money to a school and their child is promptly transferred into the honors program–while your son with better grades doesn’t make the cut? What about the mother who helps her daughter compose poison-pen e-mails to yours? And what do you say to the parent-coach who screams at your child when the team is losing? Wiseman offers practical advice on avoiding the most common parenting “land mines” and useful scripts to help you navigate difficult but necessary conversations.

Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is essential reading for parents today. It offers us the tools to become wiser, more relaxed parents–and the inspiration to speak out, act according to our values, show humility, and set the kind of example that will make a real difference in our children’s lives.

Also available as a Random House AudioBook and as an eBook

From the Hardcover edition.Amazon.com Review

8 Things You'll Learn from Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads

Rosalind Wiseman was gracious enough to give us a sneak peek at the advice found in her new book, and we're kind enough to share. So, if you've ever found yourself in any of the following situations, Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is the book for you:

1. Your kid, who attends every practice diligently, gets lots of "pine time" on the bench, while other kids who aren't nearly as good get more play time. Should you say anything to the coach?

2. Your daughter fights with her best friend, who shuts her out of the clique. The best friend's Mom says, "I really think the girls should work it out, don't you?"

3. An angry father shouts down the principal at the PTA meeting, saying, "I know I speak for all parents here when I say..." while you disagree completely. Should you speak up?

4. You walk by two women and overhear them saying about a girl nearby, "She looks like such a slut." That's your daughter they're talking about. Should you confront them?

5. Your son goes to a party where there's drinking. When the cops bust up the party, your kid gets suspended too, even though he wasn't drinking. Should you protest?

6. Your daughter doesn't get invited to "the" party of the season, which is being given by one of her good friends. Should you call the other mother?

7. They're putting the squeeze on you to join yet another school committee, but you're already stretched thin with your full-time job. How can you say no?

8. The principal busts your kid for cheating, and now his chances for getting into a good college are ruined. It was a one-time offense, and you think the principal is making too big a deal of the incident. Should you challenge the school to get it expunged from his high school transcript?

Customer Reviews (16)

Most suitable for middle school parents, and could have been better overall
This book left me feeling as if either I am terribly naive or clueless, or am fortunate to have my kids at a school where there are few queen bee moms, wannabe moms, and kingpin dads, just to name a few.I still have not figured out what my situation is, but the book was eye opening and there were definitely some situations mentioned that I could relate to as well as some tips gleaned from the book.The examples and topics covered seemed mostly related to middle school, which I have not quite reached yet in my parenting so maybe in a few years the book may have more relevance for me.

One of the topics touched on in the book related to how socio-economic differences between families can preclude friendships from happening between families, or at least cause discomfort to the less financially fortunate.That part of the book was small, but well-written and gave me solace since I face some (I like to think) unintentional exclusion at times because of our financial status.One example given was by a woman who always tries extra hard to make a good impression by making sure she cleans her house extra well when the wealthier kids come over and how intimidated she feels.

The author also makes some good points related to the roles of dads when conflicts occur between children, and how so often dad will just pass the phone over to mom to handle it.

Some of the author's advice for handling conflicts between children I had to take with a grain of salt - is it always best to be forthright with another parent when your child gets hurt feelings?I don't think so.In a perfect world, we would all wear our hearts on our sleeves and tell friends and acquaintances alike when they have done something that caused us pain.In the real world, we have to learn coping mechanisms and "playing the game" sometimes.An example?Would you really want to have your child open their heart about their hurt feelings to a child that has already proven themselves to be power-hungry and might, in fact, just feel more empowered learning that they have the ability to make your child miserable?I don't think so.Sometimes, learning to have stiff upper lip and ignore others comments ("consider the source" as my mom always used to say when someone hurt me) is sometimes the best way to go, and what I recommend to my daughter.

All in all, a thought provoking and interesting book.It didn't impress or inform me as much as I expected, but it did have some thoughtful examples and quotes from other parents which I found to be the most useful parts of the book.

Uneven advice brings this book down
This book does contain some helpful information.I specifically appreciate the parts on decoding what others are saying and things you are to never say (like "I don't know what you're teaching your kids, but we teach ours to be polite").I also really enjoyed the quotes from teachers, counselors, coaches and principals.

However, some of the suggestions for dealing with conflict boggle my mind.For instance, the author says if someone else schedules a birthday party on the same day as your child's party, you should call up the other parents, and suggest a joint party or give them the chance to "do the right thing," which is apparently for those parents to cancel/reschedule their child's party.I find this to be absurd, impractical, and potentially embarrassing to your child.First of all, if you are the one with the problem with the parties, you should reschedule your child's party.Why are you trying to make your problem their problem?Perhaps you could make a joint party work, but either that child wasn't invited to your child's party in the first place, or that child WAS invited but decided to have his own party.Either way, it doesn't bode well for a joint party.I think another suggestion was for the parents of both kids to send out a joint letter stating that they expect the kids to honor their first commitment to one of the parties.Again, I find this micromanaging and awkward.

There are other instances of this but I think you can get the idea.First she says don't micromanage your child's social life and then seems to suggest you do that very thing.There is helpful information here, just don't swallow everything without a little common sense.

Finding the Strength to Stand Up for Our Kids (and Stepkids)
If you've ever tried to get involved in the PTA and wondered why you left feeling insecure about your abilities as a parent, winced at hearing a dad (or mom) comment loudly and negatively on the soccer abilities of 5-year-olds from the sidelines, or sat silently while the booster club is hijacked by a parent who's a bully, then you'll find much to appreciate in this book.

A never-ending series of power plays among parents - the dramas that all of us see every day - are dramatically affecting our children and their schools, playing fields, and life skill development. Wiseman spotlights parents who live out their own insecurities through their kids. They push their children to take a whirlwind of classes, load them up with extra-curricular activities, and fret that it's not enough to gain admittance to the Ivy League. So it goes one step further - to bullying school administrators, blackballing other kids, and swooping in to rescue our children from the lessons they desperately need to learn on their own.

It's no surprise to see her expertly slice and dice the undercurrents surrounding a Queen Bee Mom and her posse, as they turn a cold shoulder to the new parent stumbling into the book fair planning committee. Wiseman also wrote Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence, the landmark New York Times bestseller on relational aggression in girls.

Several personas - from Caveman Dad to Hovercraft Mom, flit through the pages. They're not labels per se - but tools that help us understand our own roles and behaviors.

There is no prissy-footing or tip-toeing around the big issues here. The book offers solid advice with scripts to help parents stand up and build a culture of civility and respect that helps all our children. She encourages parents to challenge the often aggressive, inappropriate, and plain over-the-top behavior exhibited by many parents today.

It's a field guide in handling uncomfortable conversations between parents and adults who care about children. For example, a dad overhears a couple of women calling his daughter a slut because of how she is dressed. For most parents - the options that immediately come to mind are to start a shouting match with the women, or to slink off in silence. In reality - the dad didn't like the way his daughter was dressed, and would like for her to dress differently - and was struggling in his relationship with her. Wiseman offers a scripted conversation to guide how the dad could approach these women, state what he overheard, and ask for the situation he'd like to see happen instead.

And the reader is not off the hook, either. Wiseman encourages all of us to reflect on our own behaviors and motivations, and consider how we can be part of a community that values its members, treats people with dignity, and supports our children. The conversational and warm tone make for easy reading. Although the book talks directly to parents, there is much of value here for stepparents, educators, and others who care about children and their well-being. As a former youth worker who endured more than a few parental barrages - I found much of comfort and value in this book. As a stepmom to three, I saw some of my own experiences and observations mirrored, picked up a boatload of helpful advice, and considered my own attitudes and behavior.

I met author Rosalind Wiseman during the National Book Festival in Washington, DC last year. I was impressed with her energy and commitment to helping us all build positive communities for our children. When she inscribed her autograph in my book, she added "Stay strong!" We all need to hear that.

Look out, queen bee moms/kingpin dads!We're on to you!
Again, Rosalind Wiseman is giving us moms, and women in general, the information necessary to go up against the queen bee moms and kingpin dads out there!And I laughed when reading one of the negative reviews, because I can guarantee you that the information in this book hit a nerve with that particular reviewer...buzzzzzzzzzzz.Thanks, Ms. Wiseman!Knowledge is power.

A must read for every parent
Although, I only have a four and a two year old.I know that the time will come when I have to handle certain situations that are described in her book.Like what to do when my daughter doesnt want to invite a girl to her party, or when my son thinks that he got a grade he didnt deserve.Although some of the situations wont happen to me, because I live in a small town, but I think that this book will help everyinvolved parent that wants the best for their kids. ... Read more

26. Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads: Dealing with the Parents, Teachers, Coaches, and Counselors Who Can Make--or Break--Your Child's Future by Rosalind Wiseman, Elizabeth Rapoport
	Hardcover: 352 Pages (2006-03-07) list price: US$25.00 -- used & new: US$5.11 (price subject to change: see help) Asin: B000Y8BDPY Average Customer Review: Canada \| United Kingdom \| Germany \| France \| Japan
Editorial Review Product Description What happens to Queen Bees and Wannabes when they grow up? Even the most well-adjusted moms and dads can experience peer pressure and conflicts with other adults that make them act like they’re back in seventh grade. In Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads, Rosalind Wiseman gives us the tools to handle difficult situations involving teachers and other parents with grace. Reassuring, funny, and unfailingly honest, Wiseman reveals: • Why PTA meetings and Back-to-School nights tap into parents’ deepest insecurities • How to recognize the archetypal moms and dads—from Caveman Dad to Hovercraft Mom • How and when to step in and step out of your child’s conflicts with other children, parents, teachers, or coaches • How to interpret the code phrases other parents use to avoid (or provoke) confrontation • Why too many well-meaning dads sit on the sidelines, and how vital it is that they step up to the plate • What to do and say when the playing field becomes an arena for people to bully and dominate other kids and adults • How to have respectful yet honest conversations with other parents about sex and drugs when your values are in conflict • How the way you handle parties, risky behavior, and academic performance affects your child • How unspoken assumptions about race, religion, and other hot-button subjects sabotage parents’ ability to work together Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is filled with the kind of true stories that made Wiseman’s New York Times bestselling book Queen Bees & Wannabes impossible to put down. There are tales of hardworking parents with whom any of us can identify, along with tales of outrageously bad parents—the kind we all have to reckon with. For instance, what do you do when parents donate a large sum of money to a school and their child is promptly transferred into the honors program–while your son with better grades doesn’t make the cut? What about the mother who helps her daughter compose poison-pen e-mails to yours? And what do you say to the parent-coach who screams at your child when the team is losing? Wiseman offers practical advice on avoiding the most common parenting “land mines” and useful scripts to help you navigate difficult but necessary conversations. Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is essential reading for parents today. It offers us the tools to become wiser, more relaxed parents–and the inspiration to speak out, act according to our values, show humility, and set the kind of example that will make a real difference in our children’s lives. Also available as a Random House AudioBook and as an eBook From the Hardcover edition.Amazon.com Review 8 Things You'll Learn from Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads Rosalind Wiseman was gracious enough to give us a sneak peek at the advice found in her new book, and we're kind enough to share. So, if you've ever found yourself in any of the following situations, Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads is the book for you: 1. Your kid, who attends every practice diligently, gets lots of "pine time" on the bench, while other kids who aren't nearly as good get more play time. Should you say anything to the coach? 2. Your daughter fights with her best friend, who shuts her out of the clique. The best friend's Mom says, "I really think the girls should work it out, don't you?" 3. An angry father shouts down the principal at the PTA meeting, saying, "I know I speak for all parents here when I say..." while you disagree completely. Should you speak up? 4. You walk by two women and overhear them saying about a girl nearby, "She looks like such a slut." That's your daughter they're talking about. Should you confront them? 5. Your son goes to a party where there's drinking. When the cops bust up the party, your kid gets suspended too, even though he wasn't drinking. Should you protest? 6. Your daughter doesn't get invited to "the" party of the season, which is being given by one of her good friends. Should you call the other mother? 7. They're putting the squeeze on you to join yet another school committee, but you're already stretched thin with your full-time job. How can you say no? 8. The principal busts your kid for cheating, and now his chances for getting into a good college are ruined. It was a one-time offense, and you think the principal is making too big a deal of the incident. Should you challenge the school to get it expunged from his high school transcript? ... Read more Customer Reviews (16) Most suitable for middle school parents, and could have been better overall This book left me feeling as if either I am terribly naive or clueless, or am fortunate to have my kids at a school where there are few queen bee moms, wannabe moms, and kingpin dads, just to name a few.I still have not figured out what my situation is, but the book was eye opening and there were definitely some situations mentioned that I could relate to as well as some tips gleaned from the book.The examples and topics covered seemed mostly related to middle school, which I have not quite reached yet in my parenting so maybe in a few years the book may have more relevance for me. One of the topics touched on in the book related to how socio-economic differences between families can preclude friendships from happening between families, or at least cause discomfort to the less financially fortunate.That part of the book was small, but well-written and gave me solace since I face some (I like to think) unintentional exclusion at times because of our financial status.One example given was by a woman who always tries extra hard to make a good impression by making sure she cleans her house extra well when the wealthier kids come over and how intimidated she feels. The author also makes some good points related to the roles of dads when conflicts occur between children, and how so often dad will just pass the phone over to mom to handle it. Some of the author's advice for handling conflicts between children I had to take with a grain of salt - is it always best to be forthright with another parent when your child gets hurt feelings?I don't think so.In a perfect world, we would all wear our hearts on our sleeves and tell friends and acquaintances alike when they have done something that caused us pain.In the real world, we have to learn coping mechanisms and "playing the game" sometimes.An example?Would you really want to have your child open their heart about their hurt feelings to a child that has already proven themselves to be power-hungry and might, in fact, just feel more empowered learning that they have the ability to make your child miserable?I don't think so.Sometimes, learning to have stiff upper lip and ignore others comments ("consider the source" as my mom always used to say when someone hurt me) is sometimes the best way to go, and what I recommend to my daughter. All in all, a thought provoking and interesting book.It didn't impress or inform me as much as I expected, but it did have some thoughtful examples and quotes from other parents which I found to be the most useful parts of the book. Uneven advice brings this book down This book does contain some helpful information.I specifically appreciate the parts on decoding what others are saying and things you are to never say (like "I don't know what you're teaching your kids, but we teach ours to be polite").I also really enjoyed the quotes from teachers, counselors, coaches and principals. However, some of the suggestions for dealing with conflict boggle my mind.For instance, the author says if someone else schedules a birthday party on the same day as your child's party, you should call up the other parents, and suggest a joint party or give them the chance to "do the right thing," which is apparently for those parents to cancel/reschedule their child's party.I find this to be absurd, impractical, and potentially embarrassing to your child.First of all, if you are the one with the problem with the parties, you should reschedule your child's party.Why are you trying to make your problem their problem?Perhaps you could make a joint party work, but either that child wasn't invited to your child's party in the first place, or that child WAS invited but decided to have his own party.Either way, it doesn't bode well for a joint party.I think another suggestion was for the parents of both kids to send out a joint letter stating that they expect the kids to honor their first commitment to one of the parties.Again, I find this micromanaging and awkward. There are other instances of this but I think you can get the idea.First she says don't micromanage your child's social life and then seems to suggest you do that very thing.There is helpful information here, just don't swallow everything without a little common sense. Finding the Strength to Stand Up for Our Kids (and Stepkids) If you've ever tried to get involved in the PTA and wondered why you left feeling insecure about your abilities as a parent, winced at hearing a dad (or mom) comment loudly and negatively on the soccer abilities of 5-year-olds from the sidelines, or sat silently while the booster club is hijacked by a parent who's a bully, then you'll find much to appreciate in this book. A never-ending series of power plays among parents - the dramas that all of us see every day - are dramatically affecting our children and their schools, playing fields, and life skill development. Wiseman spotlights parents who live out their own insecurities through their kids. They push their children to take a whirlwind of classes, load them up with extra-curricular activities, and fret that it's not enough to gain admittance to the Ivy League. So it goes one step further - to bullying school administrators, blackballing other kids, and swooping in to rescue our children from the lessons they desperately need to learn on their own. It's no surprise to see her expertly slice and dice the undercurrents surrounding a Queen Bee Mom and her posse, as they turn a cold shoulder to the new parent stumbling into the book fair planning committee. Wiseman also wrote Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence, the landmark New York Times bestseller on relational aggression in girls. Several personas - from Caveman Dad to Hovercraft Mom, flit through the pages. They're not labels per se - but tools that help us understand our own roles and behaviors. There is no prissy-footing or tip-toeing around the big issues here. The book offers solid advice with scripts to help parents stand up and build a culture of civility and respect that helps all our children. She encourages parents to challenge the often aggressive, inappropriate, and plain over-the-top behavior exhibited by many parents today. It's a field guide in handling uncomfortable conversations between parents and adults who care about children. For example, a dad overhears a couple of women calling his daughter a slut because of how she is dressed. For most parents - the options that immediately come to mind are to start a shouting match with the women, or to slink off in silence. In reality - the dad didn't like the way his daughter was dressed, and would like for her to dress differently - and was struggling in his relationship with her. Wiseman offers a scripted conversation to guide how the dad could approach these women, state what he overheard, and ask for the situation he'd like to see happen instead. And the reader is not off the hook, either. Wiseman encourages all of us to reflect on our own behaviors and motivations, and consider how we can be part of a community that values its members, treats people with dignity, and supports our children. The conversational and warm tone make for easy reading. Although the book talks directly to parents, there is much of value here for stepparents, educators, and others who care about children and their well-being. As a former youth worker who endured more than a few parental barrages - I found much of comfort and value in this book. As a stepmom to three, I saw some of my own experiences and observations mirrored, picked up a boatload of helpful advice, and considered my own attitudes and behavior. I met author Rosalind Wiseman during the National Book Festival in Washington, DC last year. I was impressed with her energy and commitment to helping us all build positive communities for our children. When she inscribed her autograph in my book, she added "Stay strong!" We all need to hear that. Look out, queen bee moms/kingpin dads!We're on to you! Again, Rosalind Wiseman is giving us moms, and women in general, the information necessary to go up against the queen bee moms and kingpin dads out there!And I laughed when reading one of the negative reviews, because I can guarantee you that the information in this book hit a nerve with that particular reviewer...buzzzzzzzzzzz.Thanks, Ms. Wiseman!Knowledge is power. A must read for every parent Although, I only have a four and a two year old.I know that the time will come when I have to handle certain situations that are described in her book.Like what to do when my daughter doesnt want to invite a girl to her party, or when my son thinks that he got a grade he didnt deserve.Although some of the situations wont happen to me, because I live in a small town, but I think that this book will help everyinvolved parent that wants the best for their kids. ... Read more

28. Langstroth on the Hive and the Honey-Bee - A Bee Keeper's Manual by L. L. (Lorenzo Lorraine) Langstroth
	Paperback: 226 Pages (2010-07-06) list price: US$9.99 -- used & new: US$9.99 (price subject to change: see help) Asin: B0040SY5SG Canada \| United Kingdom \| Germany \| France \| Japan
Editorial Review Product Description Langstroth on the Hive and the Honey-Bee - A Bee Keeper's Manual is presented here in a high quality paperback edition. This popular classic work by L. L. (Lorenzo Lorraine) Langstroth is in the English language. If you enjoy the works of L. L. (Lorenzo Lorraine) Langstroth then we highly recommend this publication for your book collection. ... Read more

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